A friend pointed out to me that I haven’t really given you much to help you explore these topics inwardly. The purpose of this particular series is to get us all to look at ourselves, because we cannot change the world unless we start with ourselves, because we are all collectively a part of the problem. To today I will discuss self-reflection.
It is very hard to look within ourselves and see what is wrong with us, if anything. But I know that I personally have things to work on with my own self, and I suspect there are many others like me who do. There are so many people out there trying to sell books to tell you how to help yourself, but the simple answer is that the only one who can help you is you. When we look at the world, it is a reflection of all of us, each and every one. And it will take all of us to change the world to be a better place — no poverty, no violence, no fear, no greed, leaving nothing but hope, peace, love and compassion.
There are much more personalized ways to explore yourself, uncover the things that you don’t like and change them. The first step is to recognize your problem areas. Once you’ve recognized them, you can find ways to deal with it. There is always hope, and no problem is insurmountable if there is a will to do something. Everything begins with the realization that there is something you want to change. That’s actually the easy part, because deep down inside you know the things that you want to change about yourself. The hard part is the discipline to fix it. Nothing is easy, and changing things about yourself requires training and perseverance.
I have spent a great deal of time working with meditation and a form of assisted meditation, known as hemi-sync. I am fortunate that I live close to the Monroe Institute, here in Virginia, who have been the pioneers in binaural beats. They sell audio files, both music and self-paced instruction, to teach you how to meditate and explore the depths of your psyche and how to find inner peace. Their Gateway Series is the best place to begin, and it is reasonably priced. But there are other ways to explore yourself. I find that I learn more about myself through my creative outlets, something we all have, and through my works, the things that make you unique will expose themselves over time.
When I find something that I want to change about myself, I create a little rhyme, poem or mantra that I tell myself whenever I find myself falling into an old, unwanted pattern. Living with OCD has helped me in this case. I tend to be attracted to shiny things — I’m probably a raven in disguise. When I am at the store, and I want to purchase something, I think about it over and over, telling myself “Do I really need this? Or am I going to use it for a few months then toss it to the side?” I say this over and over until I have either listed enough logical arguments that I need it, or I come to the conclusion that it is just the raven in me that wants it.
I do not have the answers, and though there are many people who will tell you they have the answers, the only person who knows you is YOU. It’s okay to ask for help, but you’re the one that has to decide what it is that you want to change about you. It is up to you to take personal responsibility for your actions, and the direction of your life. We all have things that have happened in our pasts, but we also are the one defining our futures. No one is directing you or controlling you. If you feel that way, you simply say no, I’m not going to allow this to happen anymore. It really is that simple, and I’m not trying to sell you a self-help book. It’s all about realizing you are the captain of your vessel. And once you have accepted this, you can change yourself for the better, and thus we can change the world for the better.
I’ve said this throughout these posts. To create a utopian society, which I firmly believe can exist, it must begin within each and every one of us. Even tough we have all these terrible things in the world that I’ve mentioned before, there is hope, the future does not need to be grim. Our planet is beautiful and amazing. Each of us is beautiful and amazing. We all have dreams, we all have thoughts, and we all want to be heard. Life is an amazing gift. On twitter, I posted this today
— Michael Hibbard (@arkangyl) July 17, 2013
Take a moment to see some of the responses that people left. There are always positive things about yourself and our world. We are so mired down in the negative, because that is all we are fed, day in and day out. So when you look inside yourself, also look around you. See the good and bad in you, see the good and bad in our world. The answers to fixing both ourselves and the world will be similar.
So today I will leave you with this question, which you do not have to post or answer for me: Look inside yourself and find is there something you really need or want to change, and how can you achieve it?